I was thinking of how you hear stories while in school, you see people make a big deal out of getting a job, giving testimonies in church and you wonder what is going on here but then you think to yourself mine will definitely not be like. I’m supposed to go to school, go for my youth service then get a good job that will launch me into my career but the struggle is so real. At this rate I will kill cow and invite the entire adugbo (community) when I finally get a job.
Everybody knows about the struggles of the Nigerian job hunt so I’m not here to talk about how employers want you to have 5 years experience and be under the 25 or how Nigeria is so bad and nothing in working. I’m here to talk about the mind games, the feelings and emotions you go through daily when you’re at home idle or when you go out and have to answer the usual questions; my dear how are you? Are you working now? Where are you working? You say ‘no Ma’ and they give you that look, you know that look of disappointment or pity. These are the usual questions but then there are the real questions and conversations that you are forced to answer or partake in. Imagine one woman telling me that she wants to receive my wedding invitation this year and in my mind I’m like ‘Excuse me Ma you are very stupid Ma’, for crying out loud I don’t have a job, my dreams and aspirations have been halted, my life is not stable and the next thing is marriage *mtcheeeeeeew*. Is that even a priority? Rubbish and nonsense.
Going out is especially annoying, let me give you two examples; I went to church o and after service I decided to greet one woman on my way out ‘big mistake’. She asked me if I was working now and I said no. she then asked why now? *eyes rolling* in my mind I was thinking see me see trouble o, excuse me ma it is because I love Agbede (the name of my area in Ikorodu) so much, in fact my goal is to just keep sleeping and waking up in my father’s house *mtcheeeeeew* but of course I couldn’t say that so I just smiled. The woman said I should have settled the job thing during NYSC (na so?), I smiled again and moved on.
The second example my friend and I went to see deadpool at the cinemas and we ran into an ex student of our school that graduated a set before us and he asked the dreaded question what are you doing now? I said we are still job hunting o that is how this uncle started saying ‘you spent 5 years in school and you are still looking for work, this and that and you’re still watching film’. This is serious *ahhhhhhh* *orishirishi* so because I am unemployed I shouldn’t watch 1k film again with free popcorn and drink?
I have suffered but as usual I just smiled and moved on.
There are so many other instances but let me stop here ‘story yi ti fe ma long’ *in Olamide’s voice*. I blame Nigeria (so yes I still ended up blaming Nigeria lol), after spending 5years of my life studying, having sleepless nights with basically no social life (I didn’t take one single exeat throughout my five years *tears*) I am still job hunting, it is well. – Grace O