I’m this way because trust is a big deal to me. When I start a new relationship, a seed of trust is planted. Lies, deceit, unfaithfulness are weeds to the seed, they kill that seed. But truthfulness, sincerity, honesty, openness are nutrients to that seed, they nurture it and help it blossom into a beautiful flower of friendship.
I have always been of the opinion that in romantic relationships, the parties involved should be open to each other about everything. Everything, including the bad ish, the mess ups, the slip ups, everything. Now, I admit I was wrong. You see that’s the good thing about me, lol. I’m never afraid to admit being wrong and I’m open to changing my beliefs when I see a reason to.
About telling your partner your slip ups, I think you shouldn’t. If you perhaps cheat or do something that can be considered as cheating or disrespectful to your relationship, repent of it, tell your God about it. Ensure you don’t do it again, find closure, seek penance, do whatever it is, but do not tell your partner about it. Especially when your partner is not emotionally strong enough to take such. Tbh, I think as long as you are not caught, keep quiet about it. Dotn used to say, “What you don’t know won’t hurt you.” That statement always pissed me off then because I thought it was cheaters that were of that opinion. Now, I believe it’s true.
Except it’s something life-threatening or similar, I think you should not tell your partner. Even if you two agree to be open with each other about things like that, keep your mouth shut. You see the thing is we are never really sure about how we would react to issues until we find ourselves in them. Your partner might think they would be able to handle some truths until you give it to them and they react otherwise.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t be honest, in fact, I’m not saying anything. I have just come to a realisation that honesty isn’t always the best policy and some times for your happiness and that of your partner, you have to be not brutally honest.
- Leona Lewis – Better in time
- Mariah Carey and Neyo – Angels cry
- Mary J. Blige – Be without you
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